We are being used, but we're so used to that as women that we don't really question it. Plus it's just inertia. My BF and I broke up for four years, and then he reached out again when his GF after me dumped him. So, hello, there's a sign LOL We just stay with what we're used to. And when you're young, you think you have all this time to get it right, to find "the one", until you don't.